Well, many of you have asked me to share my story about Kate and the IUD, so here it is ...
Let's see, I guess this all started about a year and a half ago. Jonah was about 7 months old or so. Lily was 2. Jake and I were feeling pretty satisfied with our 2 kids. I mean we had it all, one girl and one boy. Perfect. We had a great little Eco-friendly car, a brand new Honda Fit, and we fit nicely in our little 2 bedroom apartment. I went in to get a Mirena IUD put in, so ensure the fact that we wouldn't have another baby anytime soon. The appointment went great, although a bit painful. Life was good. We went on an amazing family vacation to the Outer Banks in North Carolina. Seriously awesome vacation- we still dream about it.
Fast forward 6 weeks to my IUD check up.
I go in, hoping for a quick in and out appointment. Jake's home with the kiddos. Doc. gets started. Can't find the string. Hmmm, that's weird. Okay, let's check again. Not there... Okay, go wait in the waiting room until we can squeeze in an ultrasound to see where it went. My heart's pounding at this point. Finally, after what felt like an eternity, they call me in. I lay down. Get that cold jelly on my belly. The first words out of Doc's mouth? "Holy Shit!" Awesome. Who wants to hear their Doctor say that???? "WHAT?!" He's says, " There's a baby in there!!". Cue the tears and shaking. What the heck is going on. Turns out, my genius of a doctor put the IUD in when I was already pregnant!! At that 6 week check-up, I was already 11 weeks 3 days along. I had told them in the very beginning that I had gotten one period, and then missed the next one. I had taken a test, but it was negative. Not to mention that I was still regularly nursing Jonah and taking the pill. So, doc should have given me a test before he put the IUD in, but instead just assumed that it was from nursing or irregular periods. Bad move, doc, bad move.
He tried again to go up and find the string, since now the IUD needs to come out ASAP. No luck. I went home, with pictures of my new baby. I was shaking and crying the whole 8 minute drive home, trying to figure out what to tell Jake. Of course, he's on the phone when I get home. After lots of crazy gestures to get him off of the phone, I tell Jake and we start getting really worried about the whole baby with an IUD thing. We start research online- bad idea. Everything says that it needs to be removed or mom could die, baby could die. Generally, bad things will happen. We make lots of phone calls. Get an appointment to see a new doc. He tries quite a few times to try to get it out (I do not recommend this to be done to anyone- OUCH!), and he can't. It's too far up and the baby's starting to get to big to take the string out. Plus, the more times they try to take it out, the higher the risk of miscarriage. We go to another doc, actually our midwife that delivered Jonah. She tries too, can't get it out. They refer us to specialists at Tufts Medical Center in Boston. We make an appointment to be seen in 2 weeks. We thought that seemed like a long time. We wait a couple of days. While shopping, Jake gets a call from a doc. a Tufts. He says that he can't believe they made our appointment for 2 weeks- we had to be seen right away. Okay. We find babysitting for the 2 kids, and make the trip to Boston. We meet the Doc. that we would see every 2 weeks for the next 6 months. He says we should "terminate". How awful is that. Every doctor we saw said that we should abort. We said NO. Not a chance. God gave us this baby, despite birth controls, the IUD, and lots of disruptions trying to get the IUD out. We are not getting rid of this baby. The Doc. reminds us of all the bad things that can happen if we continue. Yep, we are aware, but we are trusting God. The goals we set were to make it to 24 weeks, and then 32 weeks. If we made it to 32 weeks, we should be okay, with no major medical complications. Commence massive amounts of prayer....
Then started 6 months of daily worrying, praying, "taking it easy" with a 2 year old and 7 month old, bi-monthly appointments and ultrasounds (this is one well-photographed baby!!), and constant wondering what's going to happen. We had so much support from friends and family and thankfully, we had a generally healthy pregnancy. I usually told people that it was like a normal pregnancy, but with a lot of things that could potentially go wrong. We made it to the big 24 week mark. If Kate was born after 24 weeks, she could survive, but with lots of complications. Then we made it to the huge 32 week mark. That was the biggest relief ever. We went out to celebrate. After 32 weeks, we were told we could leave Tufts and go back to our midwives. Hooray! Best news ever. I love my midwives :)
My friend Kaitlin and I, preggo together! I'm in the pink. I think this was August?
The last couple of weeks, Kate was starting to slow in her growth, and we weren't really sure why. We were monitoring each appointment how much she grew and it was dramatically decreasing each time. We scheduled a last appointment, where we would then set up a time to be induced. Jake and I decided to go on one last weekend away, just us. We dropped off the kids at grandpa's, and went to the White Mountains. We had a great weekend and then went home Sunday night. Later Sunday night, my water broke. 3 weeks early. I was panicking. I was not ready to have a baby! I had a whole list of things to do before Kate came, and nothing had been done yet. My bag wasn't even packed. But, of course, we had to go to the hospital. The only obstacle left of this whole IUD ordeal, was that the IUD had to come out with the baby. On Monday, November 16th, 2009 at 1:50pm, Kate Roxanne Kreyling was born weighing a whopping 5 lbs 1oz. And yes, eventually, I delivered the IUD too (they asked me if I wanted to keep it- seriously? Gross!) . PRAISE GOD! Kate and I were healthy. It was amazing. We did have a couple of setbacks at the hospital with Kate due to her small size, but all is well. She is still a little peanut- only 15 lbs at her 9 month appointment, but I could not love this little girl any more than I already do! She is the best baby and has changed our family for the better.
We didn't expect to be a family of 5, but God knows what's best for us and our family. Adjusting to 3 kids 3 and under was really hard, and it still is, but finally I feel like I am getting a better hold on this whole parenting thing.
I am sure that I missed a few things that I wanted to say in this, but it's really long already.... Good job if you actually read this far!
Well, there you have it. That's my crazy IUD story! If you have any questions, feel free to ask and I would love to answer them.